Anger.
Women aren’t associated with that kind of strong emotions.
She’s
expected to be the epitome of love, patience, sacrifice. And if she is a wife
and a mother, the sobriquets just make you want to gag and die. So, while the
whole world is allowed to raise its voice and make its grievances heard, the
woman is expected to bottle it up and endure.
Haven’t
you seen how at public spaces an angry woman is viewed with disgust? So much so
that even other women are embarrassed by her brazen outspokenness. Whether
she’s making her dissatisfaction evident with the service at a restaurant or is
pulling up a driver for rash driving on the road or is haggling with the guy at
the snacks counter of a cinema hall for balance change that is rightfully hers,
people around her just want to judge her. “Look at that fightercock!” “Women
these days are impossible!” “Gosh, her husband looks so embarrassed, see!”
Comments come aplenty.
But
clearly, this is the age of the angry young woman. Her anger is fitting for an
era that pretends to be modern and open, but its bedrock is still some archaic
set of rules and regulations. Women today are “allowed” to be liberated. They
aren’t born free. So if their fathers, brothers, grandfathers, uncles, boyfriends,
husbands and sons “allow” them to enjoy a sense of freedom, then they can have
it. But they can have it only as much as they are allowed to. Anything more,
then what was offered on a platter will be taken away as a form of punishment. What
a truly enjoyable game!
Why
wouldn’t the woman of today be angry then! You say it’s okay to work and earn
your own money, but it ain’t okay to choose your life partner. You say it’s
okay to be out at night, but you rape her and leave her to die. You say it’s
okay to dress the way you like, and then look at her like you are going to tear
her apart, and do. You say she can speak her mind and then remind her that
women should be mild-mannered and soft spoken. Honestly, WHO THE HELL ARE YOU
TO MAKE THESE RULES ANYWAY? Did she ask you for your “permission” to live her
life? And who the hell gave you the right to humiliate her, abuse her and
violate her?
Women
don’t want your bloody rules. They just want to be left alone. Just don’t
pretend to be their benefactor. Don’t try to bottle her into constricted gender
roles. Remember, women are unlearning, and it won’t take too long to turn the
tables. Don’t push it too far for your own well being.
